“OMG. So-and-so wants me to dance for him/her and I would love to do it, but I’m 100% freaked out. I can’t do it! I can’t!” Uh, technically speaking, you can. Of course you can. What you’re really saying is that you’re worried it won’t have the desired effect (i.e., he/she won’t charge forth, sweep you off the pole, and carry you away to the bedroom before the end of the first song). You’re worried you’ll mess up. You’re worried you’ll look foolish. You’re worried you won’t be sexy. You’re worried about any one of a hundred things that could go wrong. Dancing for someone requires placing a lot of trust in that person, believe me, I get it.
Here’s the thing: that person (probably) doesn’t spend hours watching YouTube videos or pole dancers. He/she won’t spend a second cataloguing what you can or cannot do.
Whomever you’re dancing for will appreciate the fact that you’re dancing for him/her. That you’re giving of something that is entirely you. Dancing for someone is, in most cases, an extremely private, personal thing. It’s just you, that person, some music, and space in which to dance. So make it personal. Trust your audience of one to appreciate you. Move in a way that makes you comfortable. If it helps you to choreograph something, do it. You’re dancing for someone who matters to you, and you matter to them.
Truly, it’s a gift you’re giving to someone–you’re opening yourself up in ways that the most intimate of conversations may never touch. Of course you want it to be just right–and by the very doing, it will be.